Steve's response as we were talking about RSI's ten-year anniversary is telling of the support that I have enjoyed. I asked him ... something like looking back what were your thoughts about opening up this business? His response was surprising to me even though I knew he'd been such a great support. He said, I knew you'd be successful and my biggest concern was having enough space as you grew. Grew? Ten years ago I wasn't really thinking about growing! I was just hoping to have enough clients to pay the rent :). It made me think of a quote I love from Rising Strong by Brene Brown: We can't be brave in the big world without at least one small safe space to work through our fears and falls. -- Brene Brown. Thanks, Steve, for being that safe place where I can be brave.
Steve has been there every step of the way. We married 31 1/2 years ago when I had just completed my freshman year of college. By the time I graduated with my bachelor's degree in Business - Information Systems, three years later we were blessed with two children! Steve has supported me through a lot of school, life transitions and is an amazing business partner. He is a gifted commercial realtor, business coach, and has an extensive background in banking. So grateful we are a team.
As I turned the calendar page over at the office to December: Live like someone left the gate open was the quote for the month. One of my favorites!
I reflected back to all the tenacity and persistence that it had taken me to now feel like this quote resonated with me. It wasn't an easy track. There were times of feeling defeated. After my interview with a department head of a master's program that I was super excited about was one of those times. I walked in confidently with my cane and he immediately started to question my abilities to be a successful therapist who was blind. I wasn't accepted into that master's program. As I reflect back I probably didn't have great answers or the confidence. He challenged me and looking back I can appreciate that he helped me to desire it even more! There were many moments of persistence - getting back up and finding another way. New doors opened up and I loved my master's programs that I did complete. By the time I was an intern I was ready and able to educate sites that my guide dog would lie quietly in the corner and yes I could manage a difficult client load. On and on ... I recognize now, each of those challenges came with an opportunity to grow and to check in on -- is this really your passion? Passion is a relentless devotion for a desired outcome. This was my desired outcome. Steve knew that and didn't doubt that I would put in the time and sacrifice to make my passion come true. He believed in me during times when I wasn't sure. Why not? Go for it. You got this. Beck, we will find a way.
I loved my work at various sites: Moran Eye Center, Cancer Wellness House, Sharing Place, Caring Connections, Lifeline, and LDS Family Services. As I started to think of creating my own private practice I was in a space ready to simplify my commute and the timing felt perfect with our family. During this time, I met some amazing mentors and colleagues. I also experienced doubters and even an employer that told me that I really should just be grateful, as a person who was blind, to have a job. Seriously!? I am so grateful I followed my heart and listened to those who believed in me. The doubters also pushed me to gain confidence from within and believe in myself.
A picture of us on our tandem bike is fitting. This is often a place where besides pedaling hard, I gain clarity, and we do a lot of talking. We started tandem cycling over 20 years ago. Besides being so much fun and great exercise; it is also a place where we have processed lots of our dreams including creating Resilient Solutions, Inc.
Like climbing a mountain, starting and maintaining a small business is a LOT of work, a LOT of sacrifice, and a LOT of fun and meaningful.
Still to this day, I walk into the office so grateful that this is my home away from home. I love being there. I love my amazing colleagues. I love that Steve believed in me and saw Resilient Solutions' vision. I am grateful he knew how to create and manage a business even when my dream was simply to have a space to do what I love. I love that it is something we do together.
So, as I begin to share our story of building a business, #1 Define what you are passionate about and have someone on your team that believes in you. When you are following your passion -- you lose track of the hours you are.working. You focus on the yes and the many doors that are open. You are willing to sacrifice for that desired outcome. When we are living our passion, we find increased strength and courage. My passion and dream for Resilient Solutions, Inc to be a place where people could come heal gave me the courage to excitedly market. I now love to share this message and one of my favorite parts in the day is answering calls and helping someone find a therapist in our office that can help them in their journey. I love when someone tells me RSI is a space that feels so comfortable and inviting.
Whether it is a busy day where every office is occupied with clients in session or a quiet Saturday morning when Steve and I are hauling in water, candy and the other supplies needed; I feel such gratitude to truly be living my passion and having an amazing partner by my side.